My dear...
I/WE are far too young to be doing this. I went alone (R stayed home with Joss and my parents went earlier in the day). For a few moments I just stood and watched. I watched Mr. B with smiles and tears, greeting his family and friends and helping each one of them say goodbye to the woman he thought he'd grow old with. 60 years old is so young. He and I talked about how we just get comfortable in life. Maybe falsely comfortable.
I watched her four daughters wipe away tears with each hug of a friend. I watched their husbands stand in the background wondering what exactly this means, how do you comfort your spouse when something this life-changing happens?
I watched 10 grandchildren run around giggling and playing, almost unaware of where they were and what was happening, bringing a few smiles to so many saddened faces. There's another granddaughter on the way. Most of these poor kids will never know or remember their fun, spunky, feisty, life-loving grandmother.
Today, Mrs. B is being laid to rest.
I cannot even begin to imagine this happening to me. My heart hurts so terribly for her daughters and husband. They were cheated. You can say that Mrs. B had a great life, because she certainly did. And lucky for her, the end was a quick and painless as it possibly could have been. But for everyone else, it's just not fair. They are cheated out of a lifetime companion.
Hugging a friend that I haven't seen in about 9 years was bittersweet. She lives in FL now, so I was happy to see her, but obviously not for this reason. Sadly, this family also lost another loved one just a week ago. Mr. B's dad passed away just one week before his wife did. I heard my friend say, with a smile on her face, that "This is God's way of telling us to get together more as one big family." What a perspective to have. I'm not sure I would have thought that way.
Anyway...hug your mom. Kiss your babies. Call your dad. Snuggle for 5 extra minutes with your husband. Send your grandparents a card. Have lunch with your friends. Because you just never know....
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